On our way to John’s swimming class, we drove for a while in silence then I got a hunch to ask him how things were going with him. You know, men are wired to carry on silently in each other’s company without much chit-chatting, yet no threat will be posed to their relationship. That was the mood I perceived initially as we drove on. However, I couldn’t resist the urge to ask him the question. Me: “So what’s been going…
At breakfast this morning John and Agbenu were giving pep talks to Ofu about Next Level Summer Camp. They shared their experiences as well as expectations from him and the organization. John called one of his leaders by the first name without his title. I thought it was an opportunity to teach him how to address an official. So I said: “The correct way to address him is by his title and last name.” Then I said it as it…
This a 2-day fold post. Day 1 The day before Sweetheart’s birthday, Ofu and I were doing our morning routine of getting him ready for school when he popped the question: “Dad, what are we going to do for mom on her birthday?” Me: “Very good question. This is what I’m thinking. First, I’ll take her out shopping and then we’ll go to a nice restaurant for lunch. I plan to buy a card for you, John, Mama (Agbenu) and…
Ofu got hurt by another kid shortly before leaving school today. Thank God it was not a serious injury. Later in the evening, a kid knocked on our door. There was a car at the entrance of our driveway. When we opened the door, he introduced himself and said: “I just stopped by to check if Ofu is doing okay. I asked my mom to bring me to see him because I knew he was hurting.” We thanked and praised…
I believe that everybody has a spiritual belief system. Some people believe in the existence of a supernatural being. As Christians, we know this being to be God. Other religions have different names for the supernatural being that they believe in. Some people do not believe in the existence of God or any supernatural being. However, one thing is certain about everyone, irrespective of their belief or unbelief systems. Our practices and behaviors reflect our belief or unbelief in the…
It’s a beautiful spring evening. Agbenu, my daughter is riding her bicycle around the front yard. I came out to be a “Watch Dog” at the same time capture a few thoughts while “self-serenading” over a drink. “This life I can’t kill myself oh… Allow me to flex oh…” Right, Timaya? Thanks to Oche, my son who sees and captures the moment. It’s like “I’m inspired by what inspires you.” I was only trying to be a present father. Infinite…
We took our children for their routine dental checkups. While in the waiting room, Sweetheart asked if I could excuse myself from her line of vision so she could capture a snapshot of our children. She said: “Every time we come for checkups, their doctors always marvel at how much they have grown, so I want to capture this moment.” That caught my attention and then I looked closely at them. They were watching something on John’s phone. Under their…
This morning, while I was still snoozing in bed, Sweetheart came over and lied beside me then threw an arm and a leg over me, in return for my doing the same frequently to her. She describes it as an old generation way of physically claiming one’s partner. She termed it “Uncle…” style. We find it very humorous. Well, it’s one of our bedroom mischiefs. Then I held her in the position and won’t let go of her. She kept…
I invited my kids to come out to run some errands with me. The boys opted out to be at home, each hooked to their games. Not a problem for me. I believe it’s the same reason a man can be alone fishing by himself for hours. Agbenu quickly chose to come with me. Is it because women are more open to deeper relationships? I don’t know, but we’ll soon find out. As we got close to the store that…
Are you unsettled by that question like I was? Well, this morning, as we were getting ready for school, Sweetheart was listening to a testimony of a breast cancer survivor. Suddenly, Ofu asked: “Mom, what is breast cancer again?” Sweetheart: “We talked about it already.” Ofu: “Yes, but I can’t remember and I wanna know.” Sweetheart: “Well, I don’t know. Ask dad.” Ofu: “Dad, what is breast cancer?” Me: “It’s a lump in the breast. Do you know what a…